Dear Amy,
I'm new to the state of iowa, I moved here about 6 months ago, and I love the show. I'm writing to you because I've seen, and heard some stuff about Ragbrai. My son and I both love bicycling, and I thought this might be a good way to spend some time together this summer in a new place. However, like I said, I've seen and heard some things about ragbrai, and I'm not for sure if it's a good idea or not. What do you think? Good time for father and son, or will the kid learn some things an 11 year old shouldn't learn just yet?
Thanks for your help,
Dave in ankeny
Buying a Wedding Gift for Someone You Don't Really Know?
Dear Amy,
Tis the wedding season and I do love a good party however, I have been invited to a wedding where I really don’t know the couple very well. Normally I’m all about giving kick ass gifts but in this situation, since I don’t know them very well I don’t know how much to spend. I’m not attending the wedding but miss manners says that I need to send a gift since I was invited. What ya got to say about this?
Waukee wedding dude
Bailing on a wedding
Dear Amy,
I'm in a bit of a pinch, I'm supposed to go to a wedding later this summer, and I really don't want to. The wedding is that of a person who use to be a closer friend, butÂ…not as much anymore, and largely because of the man she is marrying. In talking to our other mutal friends, I'm not the only one that is feeling like this. So, do I be a good friend, shut my mouth, go to a wedding I really don't support and pray it works out, or do I just not go, and see what happens?
Thanks for your help! Becky in urbandale
Ask Amy-When Its Time to Break Up
So, I was listening to your show this morning on the way to work and the subject was about how big of a D-bag a certain friend's fiance is and well, I couldn't help but compare the D-bag to my 'boyfriend'. I have been dating a man since 2005 who has his fair share of 'issues'. I am smart enough to understand that his issues are having a very negative impact on my life; and I hear the advice of family and friends asking me to leave him. But, damn, can the heart make you hold onto hope that things will get better if I just do this or that. I have lost so much respect for him, and how do you continue to love them and not respect them? His issues would be that when I met him in 2005 he was a recovered meth addict. Having never dabbled in that life ever, I didn't know just what I was in for, if meth returned to his life, which it did in 2007. It is still ruinging his life and making me miserable watching him self-destruct. Further, he let himself get fired because he stopped going to work back in December 2007. He has not worked since. I have carried him now for over 2 years. During that time, I tried to rekindle the flame by taking him to Vegas, I paid for everything, from the plane tickets to the hotel to tickets to the Nascar race that weekend, to getting him the convertible corvette to toodle around town in. I have given and given. He would be homeless if it weren't for me. I have done more job searching for him than he has done for himself. Nothing is working. So, about 5 months ago I said I was done. I managed to keep my distance for a couple of months, then he sent me roses for Valentine's day, quite unexpected. Told me he spent every last penny he had to send those to me because he missed me, etc. I was a total sucker. I have been trying to figure out how to make this work and I am going crazy. I am not made of money. I don't have kids, neither does he, but I can't afford to keep paying his bills and mine. I can't do all the work and watch him waste his days sleeping or sneeking up to the meth capital of Iowa, while I pinch my pennies trying to make things work. We are worlds apart but I feel so dang sorry for him most of the time that it is hard to turn my back. I wasn't very happy with myself for giving up on him back in December. I felt terrible. But, now that we are back together, the things that made me frustrated and stressed are back. He now will not let me hang out with his family or attend his family functions until I bridge the gap between him and my family. ?! Is it my responsibility to bridge that gap? Is it my responsibility to fix everything? I can pay the bills but its not right that I have to take care of a 37 year old man. What the heck do I say to get him to wake up? Leaving him back in December only made him live full time at this damn drug house. It made things worse for him. Well, I am sorry for sounding like a complete whiner. Not quite my intent. Thanks for your time.
Ask Amy-Its Not You Its Me
If a girl says that she just wasn't feeling it and that it wasn't me is she just lieing to make me feel better?
Thanks,
Justin
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Ask Amy-Breaking up with a girl who might be crazy
Amy,
You’re a girl so I thought I would ask you your opinion. I’m currently dating this girl, she’s a lot of fun and we have a good time together. However she has told me that she does not want to have kids. She recently labeled me her boyfriend. I am not a relationship label kind of guy and someday I would really like to settle down and have a family. So, do I keep dating her or should I just break it off now?
Thanks
Eric
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Moose said something to Amy that he THOUGHT was innocent enough but she brought it to his attention.
Ask Amy-Moose and his Wife's wager
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Our 'Toys N Tech' contributor, Jeff Bakalar has a question about an annoying future in-law of his.
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